If a casual affair at a music festival is your thing, you might want to pay heed to these ten rules put together by The Sherp.
With music, debauched abandon, and carefree vibes, music festivals make popular backdrops to romance. Casual affairs and flings are aplenty, and while they make for great festival stories later, it would do you good to tread with some parenting caution. Just so you can be mindful of yours and others’ feelings from being reproached far too much. With festivals being absolutely hysterical, it is almost entirely possible to trudge a little harder, persist a little longer, thereby putting yourself in absolutely unwarranted situations.
To make your next festival fling a little easier, we list down ten rules to having a music festival romance.
It’s alright to approach / be approached
Free spirit pulls the reigns at music festivals. With the amount of euphoria around, it’s most normal to find someone attractive, or to be found attractive enough. And it’s just as alright to approach someone for a conversation. Do not hold yourself back from what can be a great connection, and do not imagine that everyone hitting you up is being creepy or stalkish. Unless, they follow you around the venue, obviously.
A no is a no
If someone is disinterested, not just to pursue a fling with you, but also in a conversation, back out. Everybody wants to enjoy a festival on their own, and if that includes not striking up friendships with strangers, so be it.
Don’t be a creep
Sometimes (and we use sometimes with caution ) signals can be mixed. They might be hesitant to take up your offer completely, yet not absolutely resistant. Don’t go chasing after them until they agree. That is not just overbearing, but can tick them off completely. Be nice enough to grant them the time it takes for them to not be wary of you.
Be mindful of personal space
The world is divided into huggers and those crawling into a shell with the sheer touch of an arm. Not everyone might be comfortable with YOUR overwhelming physical comfort. Some choose to hug only their friends, while some do not do the hugging business at all. You might want to catch up on these instincts before grabbing someone.
Sure, you might want to get laid at a music festival, but very rarely will someone jump in your sack at the very instant of having met you. If you hit someone up with the sole idea of hooking up with them, then you are most likely to come across as an absolute douchebag. Strike up conversations, build a friendship. In that case, you wouldn’t mind it going either way.
Chase not the person, chase the music
If you’re attending a music festival just for a good lay, then the festival probably isn’t for you. Thousands of people attend festivals to be a part of the culture, to soak in the music with like-minded liberated individuals. If you’re one of those, let the music lead you to your possible partner other than chasing the prospective partner. In fact, the enthusiasm for an artist might be great starting point to your conversation.
Festival grounds might seem exciting, but not necessarily
If you’re planning to hook up on the festival ground, that’s fine. As long as you don’t have a really unpleasant consequence to go with it.
Protection isn’t underrated
Music festivals are hotbed for diseases, especially STDs. You have very little information about a person, especially when it comes to their sexual and medical history. So while you might want to take the plunge, you might want to keep some protection on you, man or woman.
Take it as it comes
You’re at a place where there is abundance of music and enjoyment to be had. Take a festival fling as it comes. If you happen to lose your hook-up partner on day 2, don’t go crazy looking for them. If it was mutually fun, you will be found with little trouble.
Have little expectations
Your festival fling will most probably be just that, a fling. It very likely will not translate into a full-fledged romance. Similarly, festival romances are known to have lasted a lifetime. You might want to cut back on your expectations when meeting someone at a music festival, for it can lead to major disappointments.